I’ve been enjoying Nancy Leigh DeMoss on Revive our Hearts lately, and today’s show used the word “amenable” to describe a desirable characteristic of a woman. It’s not a word that I use every day, of course, but it’s a good one, meaning agreeable or willing to comply. Obviously, a person cannot be agreeable to everything, certainly not to ungodly things, but it hit me that amenability is exactly the characteristic that I would like to see more in my children, especially in their relationships with each other. It’s not necessarily agreeing with everyone about everything. It’s more of a mindset, a willingness to cooperate and work together as much as possible.
It’s the difference between responding to a declaration of “I don’t get this,” with, “You wouldn’t!” and responding with, “What’s the problem? How can I help?” It’s the difference between a prickly and easily offended heart and a heart that truly wants to have a harmonious relationship.
The thing that particularly struck me about this word is its close relationship to “Amen.” I had never thought about that. “Amen,” of course, means “Let it be so.” And that’s the key to good relationships–doing our best to agree together whenever possible.
It’s the key to a relationship with God–not fighting Him or bucking against His ways, but desiring to please Him.
It’s the key to a good marriage–having a heart that yearns to please your spouse as much as possible
It’s the key to friendships–showing kindness and providing a listening ear, being a good companion
It’s the key to parenting–enjoying your child and listening to what they have to say, rather than only correcting them
It’s the key to racial relations–building bridges and maintaining them rather than erecting barriers
It’s the key to good leadership–discussing the issues and learning the hopes and desires of the people, then working together to achieve them
All of those things lead to harmony and peace. And it all begins with one little attitude of heart.
Let’s do our best to live amenably. Let’s practice our AMEN-ability.
Amen. Let it be so.