Have you ever been in one of these situations? You’re having dinner or just sitting and talking with another couple, and she makes a comment that belittles him. You watch him wilt, and you really wish you were somewhere else.
It is so hard to watch. We have the arguable blessing of being friends with two or three couples who do this on a regular basis. Interestingly enough, we don’t have any close friends where it happens the other way. It’s always the woman being disrespectful to the man.
How do you deal with this? When she shushes him so that she can hear the movie, but hits the pause button when someone else talks? When she reminds him of some failure in his past, and proceeds to go into detail? When she rolls her eyes at something he says, or corrects him like a child? When she elaborates about how hopeless he is at fixing things around the house?
Why does a woman do this? I’ve come to the conclusion that often it becomes a habit and she truly isn’t aware how her words are hurting him. There are also times when she pretends to be joking, but it’s painfully, awkwardly obvious to everyone but her that it’s no joke to her poor husband.
There is also the issue that it makes the other people present extremely uncomfortable. Who wants to watch a man get raked over the coals by this person who has vowed to love and honor him?