Have you ever heard this question in regard to some personal choice? For instance:
So you homeschool your children—do you really think that’s necessary? I know a lot of kids who go to public school who are on fire for the Lord, and they have such a great witness to the kids who aren’t Christians!
You know that taking medication for depression is simply not necessary. All it does is dull your moods—it won’t help the real problem at all. You just need to get right with God.
It’s not necessary to say whether there was or was not a literal six-day creation. The Bible says that to God, a thousand years is like a day, so what does it matter whether it was a day as we know it, or some longer period of time? What’s important is that we realize that God is the one who did it!
You don’t have a TV? But how in the world do you keep up on things? And there are so many great programs—I learn all kinds of things! I mean, yeah, there’s a lot of junk, too, but you don’t have to watch that stuff. It’s not necessary to get rid of your TV—just use some discernment and self-control.
You want to wear a head covering? But that’s not even what Paul meant! He was talking to those people in Corinth, and it doesn’t have anything to do with us! Surely that sort of thing isn’t necessary for people today!
Oh, you eat organic food? But really, that isn’t necessary, is it? I mean, it costs so much, and who knows whether it’s really any better than the stuff that isn’t labeled organic? Besides, I’ve been eating normal food all my life, and look how healthy I am!
So many things, depending on who you talk to, are “not necessary.”
Being a missionary to a foreign country is “not necessary.” Just be a good witness to the people you meet here. After all, somebody has to stay here and take care of things.
Going to a doctor is “not necessary.” God is the great Healer—if He wants you to get well, you will.
Being part of a church is “not necessary.” Most churches are corrupt, and none of them are perfect, so just worship with your own family at home.
It’s “not necessary” to go to a hospital to have a baby. You aren’t sick, are you? Having a baby is a perfectly normal event, so why subject that tiny newborn to all the germs they will encounter in a hospital?
Exercise is “not necessary.” After all, the Bible says it’s not worth much compared to godliness.
And on and on.
My question is: Why the focus on necessity? In our Christian walk, we face many decisions. We have to evaluate each one separately in light of Scripture, and then after that, make the choice according to our own needs and challenges. Sometimes we are convicted that a certain decision is the right answer for our family. Sometimes it comes down to simply a preference, nothing more.
All of the above arguments are ones I have heard from various sources. Some of them I agree with, some I don’t. And the huge loophole in all of them is that even if it’s NOT necessary…
so what??? If I choose to do it, it’s my choice.
Do we, as a rule, do only the things that are necessary? Of course not! It’s not necessary to kiss my children goodnight or to take them to the library. But I do. It’s not necessary for me to fix my husband coffee in the morning, but I try to do it sometimes. It’s not necessary for me to take a meal to the family with a new baby. But it’s sure a nice thing to do. Those are all things that I do out of love, not necessity. And I hope that they will benefit those people.
We live by grace, not law. And because of grace, we are free to make good choices. Don’t ever let someone talk you out of the choice you feel is right with the argument that “It’s not necessary.”
I don’t want to do only what is necessary, or “just enough to get by”—I want to make choices that please my Lord and glorify Him!